I’m fortunate to be a work-from-home mom. This meant, before my daughter started kindergarten, she and I were together a majority of the day.
Had you asked I’d have insisted we were highly connected.
Super connected in that *almost* weird finish each other’s sentences way.
Now that she’s in school, I’d worried we’d lose some of our connectedness. I wondered if it was part of the natural course in life our bond would loosen.
I decided to make it an active choice not to lose our connection.
I chose to spend the time we have together seeing our world through her eyes.
Here’s what I learned:
The world is a jaw-dropping, wonderful place.
Even at age six she still stumbles upon new things and her jaw literally drops in amazement.
As a writer I’d seen this employed frequently and assumed it was metaphorical. Revisiting our world through her eyes helped me realize it is not. Our world and lives are truly fantastic and jaw-dropping.
Playground-strangers are playground-friends you’ve not yet met.
No matter what park or playground we visit upon entering my daughter announces: Look mama! Friends!
What I used to hear her saying was: Oh good. There are people here to play with. The park isn’t empty… until I stopped and made the time to view the scenario through her eyes.
She doesn’t question the fact the children will be excited she’s there and eager to play. Not only did this realization help re-connect me to how she thinks—I learned a lesson about how I should approach new social situations, too.
Be in the moment.
Six year olds don’t ruminate much. Are all the swings at the park taken? I guess it’s on to the monkey bars! Is there a line for the diving board? No worries I’ll do cannon balls poolside until it’s gone!
Life is simply too exciting for her to waste focusing on whether she was slighted in an earlier game of Duck-Duck-Goose or if another child is having more fun.
In her inimitable six year old way she realizes if she’s living in the past she’s guaranteed to miss what’s happening in the present.
This post was sparked by watching my daughter play.
I smiled as I watched her pretend to be an airplane pilot princess who flew her plane down our neighborhood streets and picked up friends/pets along the way. In her eyes there are no limitations– let alone fear of failure.
Whether I’m following suit and using my imagination to solve problems or gazing with her at clouds in search of animal shapes, viewing the world through her imaginative-eyes bonds us and reminds me to let my imagination soar.
When my 6-year-old plays with her doll collection, she’s not simultaneously practicing her letters and pondering what will unfold at school tomorrow. She, unlike her multitasking mama, doesn’t eat dinner while drawing a picture for her dad and making a list of what she needs at the toy store. She is 100% focused on the task at hand.
Stopping and seeing the world through her eyes both re-connected us (I found I was far more focused on whatever activity we were doing together) and reminded me of the importance of doing one thing at a time…fully and completely.
These are the lessons I learned from my daughter when I stopped and viewed our world as she saw it.
What life lessons have you learned from childish minds lately?