I’m a big believer all in the notion all moms work.
All parents work.
Whether your commute brings you to a traditional office, a home office, or (shout-out to you hard working stay at home parents) the world-at-large is your office: we all work.
And, with work, invariably comes the struggle of work/life balance.
Efforts to juggle demands (be they from a boss or an ever growing to-do list) coupled with a desire to be fully present with loved ones and have time left over for self-care.
The question is continually posed: can we have it all and not lose our minds in the process? Does work/life balance really exist?
In my opinion the answer is no and this isn’t bad news!
Allow me to explain.
- We all have different definitions of the word. For me it means a job where I can get up at 4am, work for 3 hours and still have time to play with my daughter before school. For another woman my perfect “all” would more closely resemble a punishment. I may not believe we can have everything (I couldn’t sleep in and still snag my coveted PLAYout time), but there’s an everything we can create which works for us.
- Our definitions of ‘all’ are fluid. If you’d told a few years ago about my ‘all’ of today I’d have thought you crazy. I never imagined my ‘having everything’ would include being up before the sun. In that vein, I can’t envision what my ‘all’ of a decade from now will be. I just know it will include work, plenty of play, lots of family time and self-care.
- There is no balance only harmony. The way I see it we‘re all juggling (there’s a reason we juggle so often for PLAYouts). We all have myriad balls/responsibilities in the air at any given time. Some of these ‘balls’ may come close to hitting the ground before we snatch them up *just* in time. I’ll readily admit this happens to me frequently and I’m perfectly OK with it. There may be a flux in what I’m prioritizing at any given moment, but no facet of my life has hit the floor. Yet.
What do you think?
Have you found it possible to have it all or do you believe, as I do, we simply find & create an “all” which works for us?
*photos courtesy of Caitlin of 2526 Studios http://2526studios.com/